Why without these 8 steps your new year’s resolutions and goals are bullshit.

Set goal – Make sure your goal that you set is small enough to achieve yet big enough to give you something to aim for. Make sure your goal is written from a positive outlook. If you write that you want to lose weight for example just remember what happens when you lose something, you usually find it again.

Make a contract with yourself- It’s important to make a contract with yourself so you will remember in your mind that you are in a contract with yourself and then you are less likely to break that promise to yourself and are more likely to succeed at reaching your set goal.

Write something along the lines of this in your contract to yourself. Remember to keep it positive and focus on what you do want not what you don’t want.

I (insert name here) will achieve (state goal) by (set date, and year) signed (signature and date)

Gather your tribe –  Find friends, partners, mentors, coach, tell Facebook or a buddy that has the same goal as you and share it with them. By telling people what it is your goal is they can help you stay accountable and keep you on track.

Do you believe? – When you set a goal, you need to believe that you can achieve it. If you set a goal and you have blind faith that you are going to reach that goal, it can sometimes hinder the progress. But if you believe that you can achieve it, you are more likely to.

Find proof - Find testimonials from someone that has achieved a goal just like yours. This will help you to see the proof that its possible and help with your belief. You see this a lot with the health and fitness industry, celebrity’s vowing that some diet changed their life or gyms showing you how much weight someone has lost or a website explaining to you how someone really helped them with their goals. Find your proof.

Track your progress – Track your progress in a journal or on a calendar. My favorite ones when trying to add more self-care to your life is to set a goal of self-care every day then draw 30 (calendar month amount) love hearts on a piece of paper, stick it on your fridge and color one heart in for each day you do self-care and track how much love you are giving yourself over the month.

Take actionable steps – Work out what is your goals, then work out the smaller steps to reach the bigger one. Make sure you celebrate your small wins along the way and if you get off track with your actions remember that is past tense and you still have hours left to achieve it or a new day to just keep going. Writing down your goals is not enough for you to reach them. You need action, action and more action. This is the key to successfully reaching your goal.

Practice – Practice, practice and practice some more until it becomes a natural habit before moving on to a new goal. This is the final step but by no means the least important. This is how you become great at something. When you do yoga, it’s called a yoga practice, when you meditate, it’s called a meditation practice. They call it this because you will not reap the benefits of doing something if you don’t do it regularly.

There is no magic pill to make your goals happen. It takes planning, support, belief in yourself, celebrating your wins along the way, small actionable steps and practice, practice and more practice until it becomes a habit. You can do this, I know you can.

Happy new year and I hope 2018 is your best year yet with the help of these top 8 tips.

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