The Top 5 Secret of Caring for Yourself {Without a Side of Mummy Guilt}

We get told on a daily basis to ‘love yourself', but sometimes it doesn't feel that easy especially when you don't know where to start or you're a mum. This can be overwhelming, So I thought I would help you out. I have written My top 5 Secrets of Caring for yourself and made it a short post so you have time to read it. 

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Loving yourself tends to look different to most people. To some people, it might mean getting 5 mins to yourself and to other's they might be getting an 1 hour a day self-care and they are really rocking it. The days when you have the most stress are the days when you usually need lots of self-care.

For those of you that are just getting the hang of it and are trying to get over the guilt of even taking time out for yourself, then this post is for you. 

Caring for yourself shouldn't be an afterthought or something you only do when you have burned yourself out. It is something that you should be doing on the daily. 

If you're a mum and your putting your children's needs above your own and only caring for them, this needs to STOP now. You are doing your child and yourself an injustice by not showing them how to take care of themselves and by showing others how to treat them. Lead by example and take time out for yourself. 

I want you to take a moment and Imagine your little boy or girl becoming a parent and doing what you're doing to yourself right now by not taking care of yourself, what would you say to them? 

When you really think about this, it is a very powerful question that if answered, you might not like the answer to. 

Now you understand the importance of self-care, here are my 5 top secrets for caring for yourself {without a side of mummy guilt}. 

1. The first time you take time out for yourself will more than likely create some chaos in your household. HANG IN THERE, I promise you that it will get easier every time you take time for yourself. They will not know what is happening and it can make them uneasy not knowing what to do without you (for the first time). Even if you don't have a partner or they are away, it is something that is going to take time for your children to get used to. PLEASE don't give up after your first, second or third attempt to take time out for yourself. Each time will get easier on all of you, I promise. It's just going to take some time for everyone to adjust to the change. 

2. Schedule in 'me' time and give your partner time out too (sharing is caring). As women, we always schedule everything else in our lives, from soccer practice or ballet  and we are usually scheduled in within an inch of our life. Even if its 20 mins make sure the rest of the house knows that this is your time and yours alone. It might feel at times like the world will fall apart if you take that bath alone or go and read a book somewhere quiet or even go and do that yoga class you're always talking about, but again I need you to trust me when I say, NOTHING will happen. The pile of laundry will still be there when you get back. You will have a calmer state of mind to tackle it and a clearer head to deal with the rest of your life.

3. Make a self-care list of things you LOVE. If you don't have a list template you can download mine here.  This step is super important because if you don't LOVE everything on your list and you just like a couple of things you won't do it. So, make sure it's something you really love doing and have a love affair with it, think about it constantly and daydream about wanting to do those things on your list. For me, I have just started a new-found love affair with my bath tub and I can hear it calling my name when I'm getting stressed out.

4. Never finish the list of self-care items. Keep a running list for the rest of your life. If you have found something new that you love to do, be sure to put it on the list. If you don't like doing that thing anymore then take it off the list. But never finish that list.

5. Have fun. If you're not having fun and feeling amazing then you're not doing it right. And remember every day is a new day, start it fresh and don't punish yourself for what happened yesterday. Let it go and move on. 

That's it. I kept it short and sweet so you can read at the playground or on the toilet lol. I hope this post has helped you overcome some mummy guilt and move into a place of fun and happiness where you can enjoy your life with some much-needed self-care. Cos hey that's what life is all about right. 

 Ange xo